Weathering the Transitions as a Family of Five

Wooooshwoooosh. Wooooshwoooosh.

That’s the sound Evan’s heart makes. So different from my own thump thump. I heard his heartbeat for the first time yesterday while getting him checked out at the doctor’s office. I don’t know why I have never asked to hear it before – every doctor and nurse we’ve encountered wants a chance to listen to the washing machine sounds pumping from his chest. He’s like a little celebrity, with health care workers flocking to hear his “incredibly loud and turbulent” murmur. After listening through the stethoscope, I can understand why – his murmur is so easy to hear, there’s no mistaking it. Yet if it wasn’t for his murmur, you’d never know he has heart defects. He makes it so easy to forget his looming open-heart surgery.

But sometimes, I don’t forget. I think about what the future holds for our little man. I worry that I’m too gentle with him. I worry I’m not gentle enough. I worry I treat him differently than Kate. I worry I put his needs before hers. Honestly, I think I worry too much.

The twins at 7 months.

Addie feeding the twins.These seven months have flown by. Just like we expected they would. Lack of sleep seems to make time move faster. As the twins cruise through their milestones, Addie has developed a deep adoration of them both. There were moments when they first came home that she was unsure about sharing us with them, but the jealousy seems to have faded away, replaced by a doting sister. (The fact that they are a captive audience for her “shows” seems to have helped with that transition.) Not too long ago, Addie asked us if she could change her name to, “big sister.”

As much as Addie loves the twins, they love her back tenfold. All she needs to do is walk into a room, and they both light up with smiles, giggles, and wiggles. Just her presence calms them down.

Evan and Kate with their Dee Dee.This past Monday marked another big milestone for us as a family – Kendra returned to work full-time. My mom is staying with the twins during the day. She likes to call herself the “granny nanny.” Addie spent last year with my mom, and I am so happy the twins get to be with her this year. There’s nothing like knowing your kids are safe and happy with their Dee Dee.

This latest transition, like Evan’s heartbeat, is a bit messy and turbulent. Yet we are quickly discovering how to adjust and compensate for the changes. We don’t have it all figured out… and we probably never will. But that’s okay, because no matter what the future holds, right now is where we are. And here is a pretty awesome place to be.

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5 Responses to Weathering the Transitions as a Family of Five

  1. mytwicebakedpotato April 1, 2014 at 11:02 pm #

    What beautiful children! Good luck to you during your changes :)

    • Jen April 24, 2014 at 11:08 am #

      Thank you!

  2. Expect Adventure April 2, 2014 at 3:04 pm #

    Another fantastic post and a generous peek at your life. The kids are gorgeous. Thanks, Jen!

    • Jen April 24, 2014 at 11:08 am #

      Awww thanks! :)


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